Mutual (Basic) Agreements
- I am mindful that only one person at a time speaks at a time.
- I am mindful to not engage in cross-talk or talking over others.
- I create my own space of safety and personal need.
- I use ‘I’ statements when speaking.
- I realize that what I share is my personal perceptions of an incident or situation and that every person has a right to their own perception and that that perception is real to them.
- I honor the boundaries of confidentiality established.
- I am willing to grow and express as a spiritually and emotionally mature individual.
- I am willing to negotiate and move my personal stake.
- I let my yes be yes and my no be no.
- I speak to my “itches” in group and not in the parking lot.
- I agree with decisions once made and not speak negative about outside the room.
- I respect time-frames established.
- I turn off my phone or place it on vibrate.
What Occurs When Agreements are Not Kept?
Affects the Relationships
The first time someone does not keep an agreement it is a Context and can become an issue; therefore it needs to be spoken to by the group or an assigned party.
The second time the same person does not keep an agreement it is indicative of a Pattern and needs to be spoken immediately, by the group.
The third time the same person does not keep an agreement the lack of accountability will begin to Affect the Relationships in the group. People will begin to ponder – ifs/he can why can’t I? At this point, pre-determined natural consequences need to be in place and reinforced.
This is accountability in action.
Practical Application Question:
Who is here to grow and be changed? How will that happen, if nothing is ever spoken to and standards are not ever raised?
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